The real gauge for whether or not a man is a simp or a friend has more to do with what each person brings to the friendship rather than waiting to find out if he has feelings for her. If a relationship is one-sided, and the man is the only one providing any benefits, he's a simp. What's interesting is that a lot of women put on blinders to this behavior, even though they offer absolutely no benefits to the male "friend" and then a completely surprised when they find out he was actually a simp. What's interesting is when the simp realizes that's what he's been and starts cutting off any future benefits to women who don't reciprocate. It often leads to really fascinating problems that a previously oblivious woman never realized she was actually equally responsible for.